They are energy igniters if you know how to use them.
Most of us have been trained to be doers because we have all been raised to believe that progress and achievement, production and profit are the keys to success. We’ve stepped into corporations and started playing the survival of the fittest game. We live to out-perform our co-workers to get ahead, we push to defeat our competitors, we climb the corporate ladder because that’s how you make it to the top, right? Or so we think. We’ve adopted a mentality of do or die and we fight for what’s ours, what we want and what we think we deserve. And then…
years later after all that doing, fighting for what we want, unfulfilled and exhausted, we find a coach, face the truth and admit the reality of that mentality and choice. I say this, because as a coach, this is the experience my clients share.
This is what is sounds like: “That got me money, it got me attention, the accolades and titles, the raises and promotions and it didn’t get me what I really wanted… joy, happiness, security, a truly fulfilled heart.” This is the reality of the pattern we’ve been playing out. Here at the end of doing is an emotion that ALL my clients who have been successful according to these terms face and it scares the heck out of the one addicted to doing. And let me just clarify before I go any further. I am not at all judging anyone who has been on this path or who has felt this way, who has followed this pattern. I am not saying this is wrong, or bad. What I am saying is that the WAY we have gone about success has not led to the fulfillment our hearts are truly seeking and it’s TIME for real, hard core, knock your socks off re-alignment so you don’t waste years of your life working from a place of doing instead of being and robbing yourself of the freedom and personal capacity to co-create a powerfully fulfilling life that serves others. I want YOU to live the life you dream of by learning to follow YOUR own path to success.
So let’s get back to it. I was about ready to say this: When the doer finally puts down the doing and sits in the idleness long enough, the emotion of BOREDOM arises and scares the sh!t out of the surrendered doer. And just like that.. the doer runs back to doing.
Sound familiar?
I had a client tell me the other day, that said when she felt bored she believed that she did not have ANY internal motivation of her own. Because of this, every time she felt bored she had to do something. Anything. She continuted, I HAVE to be motivated by something or someone out there. I’m really good at that. If it’s something I set for myself, I can’t seem to act on it. I have no inner motivation, Tami! So I told my gorgeous, powerful and honest client the truth.
“You have been living your life motivated by fear.” You act and perform only when something outside of yourself MOVES you. The only reason you are moved is because you are afraid of failing, not getting it right.. NOT WINNING. You act because YOU FEAR the consequence of not acting.”
She completely agreed.
So then I had her close her eyes and sit in the feeling of boredom and we waited long enough (only a minute) for her to answer this question. What begins to happen to you when you sit there long enough?
What she realized next debunked her belief that she needed fear/something outside of herself to motivate her. She saw herself rise up and move so she could go do something she WANTED to do. She realized her own desires and wants were enough motivation to spring her into action. She just hadn’t sat still long enough to see that when she allows boredom to be there without rejection or judgement.. she eventually was inspired to act in accordance to something she wanted.
Now having stepped through, my client is ready to let REAL motivation (heart centered) lead her instead of the false motivation from fear. That type of motivation doesn’t get you any closer to what you want because motivation by fear is NOT INSPIRED ACTION. It is only action to avoid an undesirable consequence. Inner motivation pulls you and your desire closer and closer until it’s complete.
Release your doing addiction and go bask in boredom! Face your B.S. ideas that keep you stuck and open up your real inspired action you deserve so much. It’s easier than you think.
Lead on!
I am with you,
